Tough Sledding

I called to check on a friend in New York in late September, 2001. The new reality of a post- 9/11 world was still in its infancy.

This person was more of a mentor than a friend at that time, and I was unsure how to navigate the uncomfortable conversation and the answers that were likely forthcoming.

“How are you guys?” I asked.

“You know, it’s been tough sledding. Almost everyone we know has been affected directly. We’ve lost a lot of good people.”

As the conversation progressed, I realized that it wasn’t difficult, and it wasn’t uncomfortable. I learned that it wasn’t about me, it was about listening. And about just reaching out to say “hi,” and “we’re thinking about you.”

I’ve had a few similar conversations this past week, mostly at home, as this town is dealing with the heartbreak of yet another mass shooting, this time at a local bank. The lessons from 20+ years ago hold true today:

Call your people.

Say hello.

Let them talk.

It’s been tough sledding around here lately. We know that time heals, but the passage of that time can be staggeringly painful. That time can move unbelievably slowly. If you are feeling the weight of these times, there are numerous community resources available.

Or give us a call.

We’d be glad to join you for a walk.

And just listen.